Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much from dating apps? Do we even want to find love anymore? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, your insider’s look into modern dating that the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily call one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and relationships. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick dig into why we date the way we do. Together we&#39;ll navigate modern dating with more compassion, fun, and intention so you can create the love life you&#39;ve always wanted!Join us every Wednesday as we talk to real daters and experts about the entire gamut of modern dating and relationships – from securing your anxious attachment, choosing the right partner for you, healing from your breakup to dating in your 30s and beyond. Make sure to send us your burning dating questions as we answer them every Sunday!If you&#39;re looking for a podcast that&#39;s relatable and full of emotional support and substance, then look no further. Let us be your biggest cheerleaders as you navigate dating in this crazy Dateable world.Send us your brunchtalk questions at hello@dateablepodcast.com or leave your question in a review!Follow us @dateablepodcast on IG and join the private &#39;Big Dateable Energy Facebook group. Check out our<a href="http://dateablepodcast.com/" rel="nofollow"> website</a> for more content and join our Finding Your Person Program!:<a href="https://www.findingyourperson.com/" rel="nofollow"> https://www.findingyourperson.com/</a>Dateable is part of the Frolic Podcast Network. You can find more outstanding podcasts to subscribe to at<a href="https://app.redcircle.com/shows/1896ec4c-ab61-46a7-b4ab-16f3ae2e712a/ep/6f03be0a-fd24-4b2c-bf24-3342e7b185ed/frolic.media/podcasts" rel="nofollow"> frolic.media/podcasts</a>

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Have you ever had a relationship where you thought &#34;this is it&#34; only for it to crumble right before your eyes? Add in if there was any infidelity or other betrayals and ooph – no wonder it&#39;s hard to get back into dating and trust again. We&#39;re talking to Greg about what he&#39;s discovered 3 years post-divorce about dating again, navigating the apps, and healing through it all. We discuss what it means to date with your values at the forefront even after betrayal, ways to really confront the trauma so it doesn&#39;t follow you into the next relationship, and how to rebuild trust in yourself (and others) so you can ultimately find happiness again.TW: While overall this conversation is very positive, there are mentions of infidelity and suicidal thoughts at the beginning.----Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Have you ever had a relationship where you thought &#34;this is it&#34; only for it to crumble right before your eyes? Add in if there was any infidelity or other betrayals and ooph – no wonder it&#39;s hard to get back into dating and trust again. We&#39;re talking to Greg about what he&#39;s discovered 3 years post-divorce about dating again, navigating the apps, and healing through it all. We discuss what it means to date with your values at the forefront even after betrayal, ways to really confront the trauma so it doesn&#39;t follow you into the next relationship, and how to rebuild trust in yourself (and others) so you can ultimately find happiness again.

TW: While overall this conversation is very positive, there are mentions of infidelity and suicidal thoughts at the beginning. 

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S22E8: Dating Again After You Thought You Found 'The One'

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If you find yourself getting dates but they never turn into relationships, you may be over-indexiing &#34;dating skills&#34; and undervaluing &#34;relating&#34; ones. In this episode, Julie breaks down the difference between dating skills (the spark) and relating skills (the glue), and why most people obsess over chemistry but ignore the skills that actually build connection. If you’re cycling through almost-relationships, or wondering why nothing sticks, this episode will show you how to refocus your attention to skills that actually are more natural to begin with! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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If you find yourself getting dates but they never turn into relationships, you may be over-indexiing &#34;dating skills&#34; and undervaluing &#34;relating&#34; ones. In this episode, Julie breaks down the difference between dating skills (the spark) and relating skills (the glue), and why most people obsess over chemistry but ignore the skills that actually build connection. If you’re cycling through almost-relationships, or wondering why nothing sticks, this episode will show you how to refocus your attention to skills that actually are more natural to begin with! 

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Quickie w/ Julie: Dating Skills vs. Relating Skills

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Whether you&#39;ve tried matchmaking yourself or just learned about it from TV, we&#39;re giving you a behind the scenes look into the art of the setup and what it truly means to have success when using a matchmaker. We&#39;re chatting with Jaydi Samuels Kuba, a Hollywood matchmaker, about all the challenges and benefits of matchmaking – and how to make it work for you. We discuss what she&#39;s learned from years of observing dates (you&#39;d be surprised at the nervous dating habits that come up!), how to understand client preferences vs dealbreakers to bring them the best match, and the ways she&#39;s helped so many clients (including herself!) have their last first date.To learn more about Jaydi follow her @matchmadeinhollywood and go to https://www.ljmatchmaking.com/. Get her new book &#39;Your Last First Date: Secrets from a Hollywood Matchmaker&#39; wherever books are sold.----Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Whether you&#39;ve tried matchmaking yourself or just learned about it from TV, we&#39;re giving you a behind the scenes look into the art of the setup and what it truly means to have success when using a matchmaker. We&#39;re chatting with Jaydi Samuels Kuba, a Hollywood matchmaker, about all the challenges and benefits of matchmaking – and how to make it work for you. We discuss what she&#39;s learned from years of observing dates (you&#39;d be surprised at the nervous dating habits that come up!), how to understand client preferences vs dealbreakers to bring them the best match, and the ways she&#39;s helped so many clients (including herself!) have their last first date.

To learn more about Jaydi follow her @matchmadeinhollywood and go to https://www.ljmatchmaking.com/. Get her new book &#39;Your Last First Date: Secrets from a Hollywood Matchmaker&#39; wherever books are sold.

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S22E7: Secrets From A Modern Matchmaker w/ Jaydi Kuba Samuels

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Situationships always have a villain—but it might not be who you think. In this episode, Yue challenges the narrative that the non-committal partner is the bad guy, especially if they have been honest about what they can offer. Inspired by the short film Making Space, she explores how we often ignore clear signals, cling to potential, and hope ambiguity will turn into commitment. Yue unpacks the difference between accepting reality and chasing possibility—and why taking responsibility for your choices is the most empowering move you can make. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Situationships always have a villain—but it might not be who you think. In this episode, Yue challenges the narrative that the non-committal partner is the bad guy, especially if they have been honest about what they can offer. Inspired by the short film Making Space, she explores how we often ignore clear signals, cling to potential, and hope ambiguity will turn into commitment. Yue unpacks the difference between accepting reality and chasing possibility—and why taking responsibility for your choices is the most empowering move you can make. Enjoy!

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Quickie w/ Yue: The True Villain In A Situationship

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Why do some relationships thrive while others seem to fall apart? The answer isn&#39;t luck; it&#39;s psychology. Join us as we dive into the next phase of long-term committed relationships and the 6 pillars we believe are truly the foundation of a partnership. We&#39;re discussing how to navigate the recurring cycles of a relationship fueled by both of your individual patterns and histories, why it&#39;s not just communication – but repair – that&#39;s the glue to a relationship, and ways to build better habits to strengthen your relationship (or prepare you for when you inevitably enter one in the near future!) Enjoy! If you liked this, subscribe to other podcast too &#39;The Psychology of Relationships&#39; on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.----Take our Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Why do some relationships thrive while others seem to fall apart? The answer isn&#39;t luck; it&#39;s psychology. Join us as we dive into the next phase of long-term committed relationships and the 6 pillars we believe are truly the foundation of a partnership. We&#39;re discussing how to navigate the recurring cycles of a relationship fueled by both of your individual patterns and histories, why it&#39;s not just communication – but repair – that&#39;s the glue to a relationship, and ways to build better habits to strengthen your relationship (or prepare you for when you inevitably enter one in the near future!) Enjoy! 

If you liked this, subscribe to other podcast too &#39;The Psychology of Relationships&#39; on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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S22E6: The Psychology of Relationships

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In this episode, Julie is breaking down the biggest change she made when dating the last time around before meeting her now-husband: seeking clarity. If you’ve ever overanalyzed a text, questioned where you stand, or stayed because “maybe it’ll become clear,” this conversation will shift how you approach dating. Julie breaks down why directly asking for what you need isn’t aggressive — it’s self-respect — and how getting real answers (even the uncomfortable ones) is the fastest path to healthier love.--Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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In this episode, Julie is breaking down the biggest change she made when dating the last time around before meeting her now-husband: seeking clarity.  If you’ve ever overanalyzed a text, questioned where you stand, or stayed because “maybe it’ll become clear,” this conversation will shift how you approach dating. Julie breaks down why directly asking for what you need isn’t aggressive — it’s self-respect — and how getting real answers (even the uncomfortable ones) is the fastest path to healthier love.

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Quickie w/ Julie: The #1 Skill You Can Have In Dating

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Have you ever thought you knew why dating was so hard only for your best friend to have a completely different perspective of what&#39;s keeping you single? We&#39;re joined by two lifelong besties Sean &amp; Ned to hear Sean&#39;s challenges of dating in a highly ambitious city like San Francisco where the ratios skew more men to women. And of course the perspective of Ned from his experiences with Sean and his own revelations before finding the partner of his dreams three years ago. We&#39;re discussing the difference of being picky vs. settling, what&#39;s really going on to cause you to pick the partners you do, and how to let go of the stories that aren&#39;t serving you (and discover the root causes of where they may be coming from). Enjoy!Check out Ned&#39;s Youtube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFjV78K8uZIVToqL9c9_ggwTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Have you ever thought you knew why dating was so hard only for your best friend to have a completely different perspective of what&#39;s keeping you single? We&#39;re joined by two lifelong besties Sean &amp; Ned to hear Sean&#39;s challenges of dating in a highly ambitious city like San Francisco where the ratios skew more men to women. And of course the perspective of Ned from his experiences with Sean and his own revelations before finding the partner of his dreams three years ago. We&#39;re discussing the difference of being picky vs. settling, what&#39;s really going on to cause you to pick the partners you do, and how to let go of the stories that aren&#39;t serving you (and discover the root causes of where they may be coming from). Enjoy!

Check out Ned&#39;s Youtube at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFjV78K8uZIVToqL9c9_ggw

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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S22E5: Why You Think You're Single vs. What Your Friends Really Think (From the Perspective of 2 Male BFFs)

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Emotional connection is powerful—but is it enough? In this episode, Yue questions the idea that love can truly be “blind&#34; but beyond just being physically attracted, and more about the general ease and connection you share in a physical space. Drawing from the TV show Love Is Blind (which she has gotten hooked this season), a recent experience with a friend of hers, and her own time in a&#34;virtual&#34; relationship before she finally met up with the guy in San Francisco, she explores why physical chemistry and nonverbal cues matter more than we admit. This is another reason to take the leap and go meet in person as soon as possible (even if the connection starts online). Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Emotional connection is powerful—but is it enough? In this episode, Yue questions the idea that love can truly be “blind&#34; but beyond just being physically attracted, and more about the general ease and connection you share in a physical space. Drawing from the TV show Love Is Blind  (which she has gotten hooked this season), a recent experience with a friend of hers, and her own time in a&#34;virtual&#34; relationship before she finally met up with the guy in San Francisco, she explores why physical chemistry and nonverbal cues matter more than we admit. This is another reason to take the leap and go meet in person as soon as possible (even if the connection starts online). Enjoy!

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Quickie w/ Yue: Love Isn't Blind (And Not For The Reasons You Think)

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Whether you&#39;re approaching 40 or have cleared this milestone, you may be feeling anxious about what&#39;s to come. We&#39;re talking to James &amp; Claire Davis, better known as the Midlife Mentors, who are shedding some light on the evolving definition of midlife and how we can move from fearing this next chapter to recognizing its opportunity. We&#39;re discussing the hormonal and health changes that occur in both women and men, the shifts that happen in this next stage of life when dating new people and within our existing relationships, and ways we can reimagine these next couple decades in our own terms, not societies.To learn more about Claire &amp; James go to https://themidlifementors.com/ and listen to their podcast &#39;Midlife Mentors&#39; wherever you listen to podcasts.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Whether you&#39;re approaching 40 or have cleared this milestone, you may be feeling anxious about what&#39;s to come. We&#39;re talking to James &amp; Claire Davis, better known as the Midlife Mentors, who are shedding some light on the evolving definition of midlife and how we can move from fearing this next chapter to recognizing its opportunity. We&#39;re discussing the hormonal and health changes that occur in both women and men, the shifts that happen in this next stage of life when dating new people and within our existing relationships, and ways we can reimagine these next couple decades in our own terms, not societies. 

To learn more about Claire &amp; James go to https://themidlifementors.com/ and listen to their podcast &#39;Midlife Mentors&#39; wherever you listen to podcasts. 

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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S22E4: Dating, Relationships & Having Kids In Midlife w/ Claire & James Davis

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What if the real risk isn’t settling… it’s misunderstanding what makes love last? In this episode, Julie challenges the way we think about choosing a partner. She explores a very simple but powerful statement that was made about the three things you need to find in a partner that will ensure you never settle that has truly changed how she thinks about relationships. If you’ve ever worried about picking wrong, missing out, or “settling,” this conversation will push you to rethink what actually makes a relationship worth choosing.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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What if the real risk isn’t settling… it’s misunderstanding what makes love last? In this episode, Julie challenges the way we think about choosing a partner. She explores a very simple but powerful statement that was made about the three things you need to find in a partner that will ensure you never settle that has truly changed how she thinks about relationships. If you’ve ever worried about picking wrong, missing out, or “settling,” this conversation will push you to rethink what actually makes a relationship worth choosing.

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Quickie w/ Julie: It's Not Settling If You Have These 3 Things

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Have you ever felt so burnt out on dating you wanted to give up? This may sound counterintuitive but we&#39;re talking about how decentering men and dating could be the key to removing this dating exhaustion – and ultimately finding your person. We&#39;re talking with comedian Allison Goldberg about how she shifted her dating strategy to staying open to meeting someone but not making her whole life centered around it. We&#39;re discussing the difference of decentering vs not trying at all, how to avoid slipping into the line of heterofatalism, and tangible ways you can build an incredible life that someone is only so lucky to join. Enjoy!To learn more about Alli and to go to a Love Isn&#39;t Blind show near you, go to https://loveisntblind.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Have you ever felt so burnt out on dating you wanted to give up? This may sound counterintuitive but we&#39;re talking about how decentering men and dating could be the key to removing this dating exhaustion – and ultimately finding your person. We&#39;re talking with comedian Allison Goldberg about how she shifted her dating strategy to staying open to meeting someone but not making her whole life centered around it. We&#39;re discussing the difference of decentering vs not trying at all, how to avoid slipping into the line of heterofatalism, and tangible ways you can build an incredible life that someone is only so lucky to join. Enjoy!

To learn more about Alli and to go to a Love Isn&#39;t Blind show near you, go to https://loveisntblind.com/

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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S22E3: Decentering Men & Dating (Without Giving Up On Finding Love) w/ Allison Goldberg

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Ever feel pressured to choose a side on big life decisions? Yue explores the freedom of living in the gray area, especially when it comes to having kids. At 45, she shares why a &#34;hard maybe&#34; is empowering, not indecisive. She talks about why she doesn&#39;t need to be defined by any decisions (that may change in the future) and how to separate your own wants and desires from those of friends, family or even partners. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Ever feel pressured to choose a side on big life decisions? Yue explores the freedom of living in the gray area, especially when it comes to having kids. At 45, she shares why a &#34;hard maybe&#34; is empowering, not indecisive. She talks about why she doesn&#39;t need to be defined by any decisions (that may change in the future) and how to separate your own wants and desires from those of friends, family or even partners. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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Quickie w/ Yue: Hard Maybe On Kids

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We&#39;re back with one of our most popular guests Dr. Paul Eastwick to debunk some of the biggest myths – from the outdated &#34;dating market&#34; mindset to gender stereotypes – that hold us back from finding great partners and realizing we have the attributes that make us a good partner as well. We break down the real science behind the importance of the qualities we think make someone attractive, what ultimately makes someone a good long-term partner, and how to use this information to date in a way that leads to better long-term success. Enjoy!To learn more about Paul visit https://pauleastwick.com/ and pick up his new book &#39;Bonded By Evolution: The New Science Of Love &amp; Connection&#39; out now.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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We&#39;re back with one of our most popular guests Dr. Paul Eastwick to debunk some of the biggest myths – from the outdated &#34;dating market&#34; mindset to gender stereotypes – that hold us back from finding great partners and realizing we have the attributes that make us a good partner as well. We break down the real science behind  the importance of the qualities we think make someone attractive, what ultimately makes someone a good long-term partner, and how to use this information to date in a way that leads to better long-term success. Enjoy!

To learn more about Paul visit https://pauleastwick.com/ and pick up his new book &#39;Bonded By Evolution: The New Science Of Love &amp; Connection&#39; out now.

Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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S22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick

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Dating may feel harder, but has it truly gotten harder in the last 10 years? Julie is breaking down her hypothesis that what we do know is that it sure has gotten a heck of a lot noisier! Between social media, AI, and well-meaning friends, she discusses how this has causes an influx of overthinking in dating instead of leading with connection. She talks about what we can do to reclaim our intuition and learn to trust yourself again. We&#39;re going to deep dive even further into this concept of self trust on a future episode, but hope this is the lightbulb moment that can help many of you today start to tune out the noise. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Dating may feel harder, but has it truly gotten harder in the last 10 years? Julie is breaking down her hypothesis that what we do know is that it sure has gotten a heck of a lot noisier! Between social media, AI, and well-meaning friends, she discusses how this has causes an influx of overthinking in dating instead of leading with connection. She talks about what we can do to reclaim our intuition and learn to trust yourself again. We&#39;re going to deep dive even further into this concept of self trust on a future episode, but hope this is the lightbulb moment that can help many of you today start to tune out the noise. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Quickie w/ Julie: Why Dating Has Gotten Harder In The Last 10 Years (And It’s Not What You Think)

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SEASON 22 IS OFFICIALLY HERE! And it&#39;s also our 10 year anniversary special from when our first episode went live back in Feb 2016. We&#39;re to taking a trip back memory lane to when we first started the podcast – what was going on in our lives and what made us decide to start a dating podcast to begin with! We&#39;re also talking about the big shifts that have happened in the last few years – from when the term situationship wasn&#39;t even in our vocabulary to what progress (and regressions) we&#39;ve made in dating (yes, there is both). We&#39;re also reading our very first listener submission and leaving on a hopeful note of what we both think dating will look like in the next 10 years. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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SEASON 22 IS OFFICIALLY HERE! And it&#39;s also our 10 year anniversary special from when our first episode went live back in Feb 2016. We&#39;re to taking a trip back memory lane to when we first started the podcast – what was going on in our lives and what made us decide to start a dating podcast to begin with! We&#39;re also talking about the big shifts that have happened in the last few years – from when the term situationship wasn&#39;t even in our vocabulary to what progress (and regressions) we&#39;ve made in dating (yes, there is both). We&#39;re also reading our very first listener submission and leaving on a hopeful note of what we both think dating will look like in the next 10 years. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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S22E1: 10 Years Of Dateable: What's Changed From 2016 to 2026 (In Dating)

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Ever been told to &#34;believe in yourself&#34; and thought, &#34;How?&#34; Yue explores why belief isn&#39;t about commands but proof. Inspired by Nir Eyal, she reveals how your brain demands evidence, not motivation. Discover how to shift beliefs by collecting proof from past wins and admired relationships. Yue shares practical steps to turn daily routines into evidence-collecting rituals, helping you align your mind with your goals. Ready to stop feeling fake and start believing? Hit play and start gathering those receipts! 🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Ever been told to &#34;believe in yourself&#34; and thought, &#34;How?&#34; Yue explores why belief isn&#39;t about commands but proof. Inspired by Nir Eyal, she reveals how your brain demands evidence, not motivation. Discover how to shift beliefs by collecting proof from past wins and admired relationships. Yue shares practical steps to turn daily routines into evidence-collecting rituals, helping you align your mind with your goals. Ready to stop feeling fake and start believing? Hit play and start gathering those receipts! 

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Quickie w/ Yue: The Secret To Changing Your Beliefs On Finding Love, Aging, and All The Big Stuff

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This week we&#39;re turning the tables and Yue is interviewing Julie now! Julie shares her experiences (and surprises!) about married life, including the unexpected emotional aftermath of the wedding. She reflects on her personal growth over the past decade, the importance of stability in relationships, and also how her anxieties have now manifested in different forms. We discuss the big &#39;What&#39;s Next?&#39; question and Julie opens up about the pressures and considerations involved along with how she&#39;s trying to regain her mojo and trust in the timing of life events. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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This week we&#39;re turning the tables and Yue is interviewing Julie now! Julie shares her experiences (and surprises!) about married life, including the unexpected emotional aftermath of the wedding. She reflects on her personal growth over the past decade, the importance of stability in relationships, and also how her anxieties have now manifested in different forms. We discuss the big &#39;What&#39;s Next?&#39; question and Julie opens up about the pressures and considerations involved along with how she&#39;s trying to regain her mojo and trust in the timing of life events. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

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Yue Interviews Julie: Coming Out Of The Post-Wedding Blues & Entering The Next Stage Of Her Relationship

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It&#39;s easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry and connection with someone without actually being objective if they have the capacity of a relationship (or the type of relationship you want!) right now. As someone who learned the hard way spending years with people who weren&#39;t ready, Julie takes you through 5 questions she&#39;d ask today to get a better feel of where someone was at (many of which she had discussed with her now-husband as well!). She shares why it&#39;s best to ask these types of questions early, how to ask them without it feeling like a daterview, and ways to really listen to the way they respond. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

It&#39;s easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry and connection with someone without actually being objective if they have the capacity of a relationship (or the type of relationship you want!) right now. As someone who learned the hard way spending years with people who weren&#39;t ready, Julie takes you through 5 questions she&#39;d ask today to get a better feel of where someone was at (many of which she had discussed with her now-husband as well!). She shares why it&#39;s best to ask these types of questions early, how to ask them without it feeling like a daterview, and ways to really listen to the way they respond. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

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Quickie w/ Julie: The 5 Questions To Ask To See If They Have The Capacity For A Relationship

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We&#39;re back with a crowd favorite of when we interview each other! This week, Julie interviews Yue, starting with her reflections on 2025 and how she learned to not shrink herself and embrace the freedom to be her true self. She also drops something so surprising (she even had Julie in shock!) related to her current relationship and how she&#39;s been able to work through the challenges of understanding each other&#39;s definitions of freedom. We discuss future goals for 2026, how she&#39;s aiming for more alignment, and the ways she&#39;s working to build a rich life for herself and with her partner. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

We&#39;re back with a crowd favorite of when we interview each other! This week, Julie interviews Yue, starting with her reflections on 2025 and how she learned to not shrink herself and embrace the freedom to be her true self. She also drops something so surprising (she even had Julie in shock!) related to her current relationship and how she&#39;s been able to work through the challenges of understanding each other&#39;s definitions of freedom. We discuss future goals for 2026, how she&#39;s aiming for more alignment, and the ways she&#39;s working to build a rich life for herself and with her partner. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/ and also take the relationship readiness assessment at https://www.dateablepodcast.com/programs

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

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Julie Interviews Yue: From Breakups To Makeups and Stepping Into Alignment in 2026

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With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was &#34;intimidating&#34;, she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her back in dating, the shifts she made, and why she wants to be viewed as open and available instead. Enjoy!🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateableFollow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was &#34;intimidating&#34;, she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her back in dating, the shifts she made, and why she wants to be viewed as open and available instead. Enjoy!

🧠 Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/

📖 Read our book: How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide To Finding Your Person and Falling in Love: https://howtobedateable.com/

🤖Try the Dateable AI Dating Coach: Get personalized advice trained on our years of podcast episodes, courses and frameworks: https://studio.com/dateable

Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon &amp; Schuster) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/

Want to remove distractions from your dates? Download Brick and get 10% off at https://www.getbrick.app/DATEABLE

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Quickie w/Yue: What I Learned When I Stopped Being Proud of Being Intimidating

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